Sexting Gone Wrong
•November 25, 2009 • Leave a Comment
Hey Cloud:
I need not apply for the title “world’s dumbest fuck”. I am THE “world’s dumbest fuck”. Period.
This is how the shit hit both the fan and the bed.
I have been online dating, mostly via the Craig’s List since my junior year in college with quite some success, if I say so, myself. I graduated two years ago, got a reasonably decent job, and have been playing the field for all it is worth – so far, so good.
Like you said in your blog, if you went into dating for sex, you needed to transmit your image, one way or the other. I couldn’t believe that you were really xeroxing your pix and sending them to each other via the snail mail, like once upon the time? I guess you wanted some? So what was a guy supposed to do? LOL.
I discovered that the pix were good but that the vids were actually even better. The first ones that I did myself with a help of a crappy and cheap web cam were a real crap but even those worked better than the best pix.
Anyway, I bought a good camera some time ago, and one of my buddies shot couple of good vids starring me and my dick, and telling all the women out there how I would do anything to make them… ya know? K, this sounds awful and creepy and all, but those two little vids have been getting me great action on a daily basis. Even from the women who were quite above my league; wanted a meaty dick in their pussies, and NO further obligations. I just couldn’t believe my luck. I was getting mails asking me to get in touch, and all, even days or weeks after I stopped advertising on the CL. Girls were exchanging notes, passing my vids and pix. Whatever? Life was good.
The buddy who shot and edited my CL vids came up with the idea that I should make couple of like, pretty explicit gay vids, too. Let me explain this: I am mostly straight. Now and then, I feel like messing around with other guys, too. I have been fucking around with him since my college days, so that’s how he knew. Judging by the response, those vids are great, too. Maybe, because I was so daring, I ended being fucked by the studs who would normally not even look at me, in your usual dating situations.
A week ago, I got a mail from a hot chick. She thought, we could go out for couple of drinks, and crash at her place, since her flat mate was out of town for couple of days. I didn’t think I knew her, since I did not have her mail in my address book, and since she was not bragging about ‘how some other hot chick recommended me’ or anything. To make sure she does not change her mind, flake out on me, or something, I sent her two of my vids.
The WRONG ones. The totally WRONG ones. The ones with me on my back taking some serious dick up my tail! Fuck me sideways! How could I mess it up there?
Well, she wrote back, telling me that she could not believe her eyes. (Yeah, I agree with that!) That couple of her girlfriends sent her links to my ad at the Craig’s, telling her how ‘awesome’ I was with them. And I just was a fag? Taking it up my tail? Shiiite! So far, four more of my ‘regular’ chicks got the vids, too. And I got angry mails with loads of “fuck offs”, etc.
I know that I have no ways of stopping this. I have kinda resigned myself to the idea of packing up and looking for a job and a place to live somewhere else.
Since you wrote about sexting and all that shit, is there anything I can/should/ought to do now?
Thanks, Dude… Help me, if you can?
Charles
Guys:
I am very busy at the moment. The blog is on the autopilot but this guy really needs some help…
Please, comment, and I’ll post it here!
Thanks,
SC
Hey Charles:
I go by the rule that the best thing to do whenever shit hits the fan is to take a very deep breath, lean back, and look into the matter with as little emotion as possible.
No doubt, you messed it up royally here, and you know that. Yup, you can call this a very dumb mistake, too.
Yet, what are really the consequences thereof? You actually outed yourself inadvertently to a single chick, who in turn started spreadin’ the news to few other girls sharing her predicament. Oh, well…
You have never told anyone that you were exclusively straight (though they may have assumed so, based on your previous record), and might have been happy to jump on their own conclusions. Like it or not, you bear no responsibility for whatever their conclusions, expectations and hopes may have been.
You, too, have probably assumed that all those chicks you have been nailing around ARE heterosexual women. Yet, you really have no means of proving that none of them has ever had one or many lesbian encounters and/or is still not an active lesbian or bi, too. Even if you came into the possession of such information, what would you do about it? I guess, nothing much.
You (and quite a few other guys and gals) meet people via the net for casual sex. Unless you make binding promises and commitments, the only thing here that is a given, IS casual sex and nothing else. Just because you agreed to fuck them, and they agreed to let you do so, does not really give them any right to either judge you or tell you what to do or what not to do. They may like it or not, but when it comes to the CL style casual dating (read: quick sex with no strings attached) you owe those chicks really nothing, no explanation, no excuses, actually, even no reply to their “OMG, you are gay”-mails. Since you have made no commitments to anyone there, you are in charge. It is really, your life, and sure, you are calling the shots.
On a more practical level, having those vids copied and mailed around is really nothing to look forward, too. Depending on your profession, employer, etc. you may be running a degree of risk that this may explode in your face, and end up in disciplinary action and possible dismissal or similar. Admittedly, there are thousands if not more of such and similar vids on the net and you certainly are not alone here. But when it comes to the possible consequences, it is always your individual situation that matters most. A guy running his own business may or may not lose some clients over it but a guy with a teaching position may find himself unemployed sooner than he thinks this may happen.
If you feel that your present employer really has no grounds to show any interest in the matter, shrug with your shoulders, take a break for a week or two from your usual ‘activities’ or focus on exploring your ‘gay’ side, and move on. In this time and age, such a novelty wears off very quickly. With so many guys around being very openly gay, the news that ‘Charles is gay (or bi), too!’ is hardly a sensation of any kind.
If you feel that the vids may end up in totally wrong hands, and that this may have serious consequences for your professional future, you have every reason to be concerned. Nothing stays secret on the web anymore, in particular, if it has a destructive potential. Should this be the case, you want to start looking into all kinds of alternative arrangements. You want to start saving up for the forthcoming trouble, and yeah, you may want to start looking for an employer who may have little or no interest in your sexual life for as long as it is not criminal. It makes quite some sense to have a plan “B” ready and waiting, if your professional future is at stake.
Good Luck,
SC
